A recent conversation with Jordan Ritter Conn, author of ‘American Men,’ highlights the importance of men opening up about their emotions and struggles. Conn’s book follows four men who struggle with their masculinity and vulnerability, showing what it’s like to live as a whole person instead of two fractured ones.

Breaking the Silence

Men are often taught to ‘man up’ and deal with their emotions on their own, but this can lead to hidden depression, anxiety, and even violence. Conn suggests that men need permission and structure to open up, and that this can be found in religious or therapy settings, or even in casual conversations with friends and family.

One of the men in Conn’s book, Joseph, had been carrying around incredible wounds since childhood. When he finally opened up to a therapist, the therapist responded poorly, but Joseph was able to withstand the response and continue seeking help. This story highlights the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for men to share their emotions and struggles.

Overcoming Shame

Conn also discusses the importance of overcoming shame and humiliation in order for men to open up and be vulnerable. He suggests that men often respond to humiliation by grasping for control or power, and that this can lead to anger and aggression. However, by slowly feeling more love and care for themselves, men can begin to unlearn this instinct and develop a more nuanced understanding of their emotions.

Ultimately, Conn’s book and conversation highlight the need for men to be more open and honest about their emotions and struggles. By creating a culture that values vulnerability and empathy, we can help men develop healthier relationships with themselves and others.

Original reporting: KEYT (Ventura/Santa Barbara) — read the source article.