When it comes to finding love, many people focus on physical attractiveness, financial security, and social standing. However, research shows that these qualities can create distance instead of closeness and stand in the way of true connection.
Looking Beyond Surface-Level Qualities
According to happiness expert Sonja Lyubomirsky and relationship researcher Harry Reis, seeking to be known and understood is more important than trying to impress others. In their book, “How To Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most,” they offer evidence-based strategies for forging meaningful, loving ties.
One approach is to upgrade your communication skills by listening without interrupting, posing open-ended questions, and sharing heartfelt compliments. Self-disclosure is also a powerful tool for building trust and connection, as it allows individuals to show vulnerability and invest in each other.
The Importance of Human Connection
Humans are a social species, and feeling unloved can be a threat to survival. Decades of evidence show that social connection is essential for both mental and physical health, and that a lack of connection can increase the risk of stroke, dementia, and early death.
By focusing on building meaningful connections and fostering a sense of community, individuals can improve their overall well-being and increase their chances of finding lasting love.
Original reporting: KTVZ (Central Oregon) — read the source article.
