Dear Abby recently addressed two letters from sisters dealing with complicated relationships. The first letter came from a woman whose sister had a sexual relationship with her boyfriend when they were teenagers. The sister had asked if she could date the boyfriend after the fact, and the woman had agreed, though she was hurt by the betrayal.

Learning to Trust Again

Years later, the woman asked her sister why she had done what she did, and the sister replied that she could. The woman has struggled to trust others in her relationships since then. Despite this, the sisters still enjoy each other’s company, as long as the past is not brought up.

Dear Abby advised the woman that her sister’s character had not changed and that she should be cautious in their relationship. The columnist also noted that the sister’s lack of apology for her actions was a sign of her selfishness.

Interrupted Phone Calls

The second letter came from a woman who had been calling her sister every week, but the calls had become awkward since the sister’s husband started working from home. The husband would often interrupt their conversations, and the woman found it confusing and annoying. She suggested to her sister that it would be better if they talked when the sister was free, but the sister became defensive and they have not spoken in months.

Dear Abby advised the woman to reach out to her sister and apologize for letting the silence go on for so long. The columnist suggested that the woman ask her sister to suggest a time for their weekly calls when her husband would not be around, as a compromise.

Original reporting: Texarkana Gazette — read the source article.