Sexual desire can change over the course of a marriage, particularly with age and major life changes. Research suggests certain lifestyle and relationship factors may also contribute to a lower libido.

Defining a Healthy Sex Life

Dr. Anna Elton, a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical sexologist in Massachusetts, said there is no medically prescribed number that defines a healthy sex life. "What’s healthy is whether both partners feel connected, satisfied and respected in their intimate relationship," she said.

Elton encouraged couples not to compare their sex lives to those of others, but to define what is healthy for their own relationship. "Talk about what feels satisfying, how much time can pass before one or both of you starts feeling disconnected and what your warning signs are," she said.

Maintaining Intimacy

Elton advised couples not to let too much time pass without intentionally reconnecting, as prolonged disconnection can take a toll on the relationship. "If we simply wait until the mood is perfect or the stars align, work, children and everyday responsibilities usually get in the way," she said.

For many couples, building careers, raising children, caring for aging parents, managing finances and juggling other responsibilities can demand more of their attention, causing the relationship itself to become a low priority. Elton said this can lead to couples living parallel lives, with conversations revolving around schedules, errands, bills and the kids, rather than affection, physical touch, flirting and playfulness.

Elton emphasized the importance of physical intimacy and emotional closeness in a relationship. "If one or both partners consistently feel rejected, lonely or resentful, or avoid conversations about intimacy altogether, it’s time to seek help," she said.

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