When the first wave of New Mexico students left for college this summer, many Albuquerque households grew noticeably quieter. Parents who had spent years centered around school drop‑offs, homework help and weekend sports suddenly faced a new chapter—one marked by both sadness and unexpected relief.
Expert advice from a local social worker
Catherine Roth, a licensed master social worker who has worked with families across the city, says the transition is an opportunity for parents to rediscover parts of themselves that were set aside while raising children. “Think back to the activities you loved as a child—reading, gardening, painting, even a simple walk in the park,” Roth suggests. Re‑engaging with those interests can restore a sense of wonder and personal fulfillment.
Strengthening marriages after the kids leave
Roth notes that couples often let their relationship take a back seat to parenting duties. She recommends regular date nights that focus on the partnership, not the children. Limiting conversation about the kids during these outings creates space for partners to reconnect and build a renewed bond.
Accepting mixed emotions
Many parents feel guilty about experiencing relief alongside grief. Roth reassures them that these feelings are natural. “Raising a family is difficult in the best of circumstances, and it’s OK to feel relieved when children leave home,” she says. She encourages parents to give themselves permission to rest, enjoy their homes, and become comfortable with solitude.
Supporting adult children’s independence
According to Roth, allowing young adults to make their own choices—and even mistakes—is essential for growth. Parents should view these decisions as part of the learning process rather than a reflection of their own parenting success.
Community support matters
Friends, family members, and faith communities can play a vital role during this transition. Simple gestures—a handwritten note, a warm hug, or an invitation to share a meal—help empty‑nesters feel less isolated. Joining groups of other parents in the same stage can also provide reassurance and shared wisdom.
“You haven’t lost someone to death, but you have lost a part of your life that will never return,” Roth reminds parents. Acknowledging that loss while also celebrating the new freedom can lead to a healthier, more balanced next chapter for families across Albuquerque.
Original reporting: KOAT Albuquerque — read the source article.
