LAS VEGAS — During the holiday season, a simple question like “So, are you seeing anyone?” can feel especially loaded at the dinner table. Maisy Bristol, who brands herself as The Neuroscience Astrologer and founded LoveLab, says science can help explain why the query hits hard and how to answer calmly.
Gut reactions precede thoughts
Bristol points out that roughly 80% of the body’s signals travel from the gut to the brain, while only about 20% travel the other way. In other words, the gut’s nervous system often reacts before the brain has fully processed the question. Noticing that immediate physical response – a tightening chest, a knot in the stomach – can give a person a moment to create mental space for the brain to “catch up” before replying.
Avoid self‑defeating language
The astrologer warns against using self‑deprecating phrases as a quick deflection. Statements such as “I should be married by now” or “if I ever find my person” may seem harmless, but repeated use can reinforce a negative narrative in the brain. “The brain believes what it hears repeatedly,” Bristol says, noting that each utterance can cement that story internally.
Answer from a place of power
Instead, Bristol encourages singles – especially women – to answer from what she calls “a place of power.” She stresses that being single does not equal failure. “Being single while dating can mean a woman is being selective,” she explains, and she recommends stating that openly without becoming defensive.
Astrology adds family insight
Bristol also mentions that a person’s birth chart can shed light on family dynamics around love, including the stories learned about romance while growing up and why certain relatives may still “get under your skin.” While not a substitute for professional counseling, she suggests the chart can provide useful context for navigating relationships.
By recognizing gut signals, avoiding negative self‑talk, and speaking from confidence, Bristol believes holiday diners can handle the inevitable dating question with poise and clarity.
Original reporting: News 3 KSNV Las Vegas (local) — read the source article.
